The impermissible and forbidden customs of marriage – (II)

 

The impermissible and forbidden customs of marriage – (II)

 

When we think of marriage, we think of it as a Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).  In Islam, marriage also comes under the category of worship.  For this reason, every Muslim fulfils and participates in this Sunnah with much solemnity and religiosity.  However, some traditions and customs which have become a part and parcel of Muslim weddings are downright harmful.  Some of them are:

 

The tradition of Chauthi

 

This custom which happens after the marriage and the Valima is chock full of indecencies and extravagance.

 

In this custom, at the very least water is thrown on one another.  There is no distinction in men/women and Mahram/non-Mahram relatives.  People also throw colors, glitter, eggs, etc. on one another and rub these things on one another.

 

On one hand, the poor are dying of hunger and on the other hand, the rich are inventing new customs to waste their money.  If only, they spent those moments in the remembrance of Allah Most High and that money was spent in fulfilling the needs of the needful.

 

Spending money on useless things does come under extravagance.  Hadhrat ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas (May Allah be well pleased with them) was asked:  Who are the extravagant folk?  He answered:  Those who spend their wealth where is there is no need to do so.

 

Apart from the aforementioned customs and traditions, Muslim weddings have changed for worse.  Thousands are spent on firecrackers.  The procession of the groom awakens the children and leaves them without sleep.  Orchestras, DJs and whatnot are also a part of the procession and became examples of sound pollution.  This is not the end either.  The groom graces the stage in the last hours of the night and those of the guests who are ill, have some need and/or children suffer through this. 

 

We should think carefully – Can we please Allah Most High and His Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) by indulging in things like these?