Woman in Islam

The primary sign of a virtuous woman is that she should fear Allah Most High and love her husband.  For a woman, obeying her husband is like engaging in worship.  When the husband comes home tired after his daily engagements, the wife should welcome him with a smiling face.  She should never behave with him with bad manners.  She should not excuse herself from fulfilling the sexual desires of her husband as well.  She should always think about serving her husband.  She should meticulously guard her chastity and should never step out of the house without the express permission of her husband.  She should treat the relatives of the husband with love and affection.

 

If by chance the husband commits any excess against her, she should be patient and should not complain before others.  Every person will have some flaws or the other, they should be concealed.  Although doing so hurts, the results are very pleasing.

 

A woman should not trouble her husband for fine clothes, jewelry and the like and make him resort to loans, etc.  Whatever is her lot, she should be happy with it and thank Allah for it.

 

The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:  The woman who offers the 5 daily Salaat, fasts in Ramadhan, does not blemish her chastity and accepts the obedience of the husband may unreservedly enter Jannah from any door that she wants to.

 

Anecdote:  Hadhrat Umme Sulaim (May Allah be well pleased with her) was the wife of Hadhrat Abu Talha.  She was an obedient wife, because of which Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with him) would also treat her with love and affection.

 

Once, Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with him) had gone out of the house and his only son passed away.  Hadhrat Umm Sulaim (May Allah be well pleased with her) covered him with a cloth.  When Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with her) came back, he asked about the son and she told him that the child had gone to sleep.  After this, she served the food.  Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with him) ate heartily and later slept with her.

 

The wife later told the husband that I had lent such and such a thing to a neighbor and when I asked for it, that neighbor raised a hue and cry.  Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with him) said:  This is utter foolishness.  How foolish are those people who do this!  She retorted:  Our son who was given to us by Allah Most High as a trust has been taken back by Him.  Hadhrat Abu Talha (May Allah be well pleased with him) recited Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilaihi Raji‘oon.

 

The next morning, he related this to the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).  He (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:  Last night was a blessed night for you, which you got because of your virtuous wife.

 

[Excerpted from Mawaaiz-e-Hasana of Hadhrat Muhaddith-e-Deccan, Vol. 1, Pg. No. 272-275]