Immodesty during marriages

 Muslims treasure their modesty.  Almighty Allah has made them inherently modest and has thus granted them a great treasure and the one who has this treasure indeed has the best of both this world and the hereafter.  Both men and woman have to be modest.  There is no preference for any one of them in this regard.  This is such a thing that whoever steps forward to it, owns it.  In fact, Muslim women are more modest than men.  The whole world knows of their modesty and acknowledges it.

 

        The enemies of Islam tried various tricks to reduce the spirit of Islam from among Muslims and at last came to the conclusion that Muslims are brought up by those women who have modesty and self-respect.  Gradually, western notions started taking root among Muslims.  Now the situation is that among Muslims, especially Muslim women, have fallen prey to it.  Their life styles, their speech, their dress, in short in every aspect of life most of them follow the setting sun of the west.  Western culture is nothing but an amalgamated lump of immodesty and going against the Shariah.  When such a culture started prevailing among Muslims, modesty has left Muslims.  Especially on occasions of marriage and the like this is seen all the more.

 

Immodesty is expressed in marriage functions in the form of lewd dances, mixing of men and women, men freely entering the women’s section and in making movies of women.  Apart from these, friends of the bride and groom cracking double-meaning jokes, making such suggestive talk that would embarrass any modest person, all these are those vile things which all human beings instinctively stay away from.

 

The husband and the wife are like garments for each other.  The way our garments cover us up, in the same way the husband conceals the faults of the wife and doesn’t blemish her before others.  Guarding the honor of the wife is incumbent on the husband.  The wife also has equal responsibility in this regard.  A wife has also been declared as the garment for the husband.  Almighty Allah says in the Holy Quran

 

They are like clothes for you and you are like clothes for them  Surah Baqarah (2:187)

 

Our elders have severely condemned such things which are common nowadays in marriages in the name of friendship, etc.  As it has been related:  When Hadhrat Salman Farsi (May Allah be well pleased with him) was married, his friends and relatives escorted him to the house.  Hadhrat Salman (May Allah be well pleased with him) saw that various curtains of beautiful designs had been hung there.  He ordered that all of them be removed.  In the house, he saw that a lot of articles were there.  He said:  My Master, the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) did not ask me to gather the things of the world, instead He said:  The provision of a traveler should be enough for you.  Then he came to his wife and said to the women who were there:  Will you please leave us alone?  All of them went away.  He than placed his hand on the head of his wife and supplicated for blessings.  Then he said to his wife:  Will you listen to what I say and obey me?  She replied:  Now I am in such a position that the husband is surely obeyed.  Meaning that it is the responsibility of the wife to obey the husband.  Then Hadhrat Salman (May Allah be well pleased with him) said:  My Master, the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) has said:  When you retire with your wife, then make remembrance of Allah and worship Him.

 

        The next morning his friends asked him about his wife.  They were asking about her etiquette, mannerisms, etc.  Hadhrat Salman (May Allah be well pleased with him) couldn’t bear even this and said:  That which Allah Most High has concealed, it is not permissible for anyone to ask about it and rend that veil of modesty.

 

Thus, we mustn’t inquire or talk about such things.