Good manners in Islam
Allah Ta'ala has made the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) peerless in both appearance and character. He has seated the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) on the highest echelon of manners and etiquette. His physical appearance and His high character are not mentioned only in the Holy Quran, but also in other divine books. All the other excellences that were granted to other Prophets, all of them were combined in the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam). The Holy Quran says about the high standard of His manners and etiquette:
And assuredly you are placed high on the Most Glorious and Exalted (seat of) Character (i.e. adorned with the Qur’anic morality and endowed with the character traits of Allah). Surah Qalam (68:4)
Islam did not spread through swords and arrows, but spread because of good manners and pure character.
The loftiness of manners is that we establish relations with those with whom our relations are splintered. We should treat those nicely who break relations with us. We fulfill the rights of those who snatch away our rights. We should forgive those who oppress and wrong us.
The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: On the Day of Judgment, the one who has the best manners will be closest to me.
The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: I have been sent to complete good manners.
Hadhrat Anas Bin Malik (May Allah be well pleased with him) says about the manners and etiquette of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam): I had the honor of serving the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) for 10 years. He never even said: "Uff" to me and never said in any matter that why did you do this.
There is a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari:
Ummul Momineen Hadhrat Khadija (May Allah be well pleased with her) says about the manners of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam): Allah Ta'ala will keep your status high and will not stop His help. You treat the relatives nicely, lift the load of the weak, earn for the needy, host guests and help people in times of need. (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith No. 03)
Bad manners it the greatest defect in a human being. A well-mannered person, even though he be dark and ugly, is beloved.
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