Dowry- A festering wound for the society

Dowry- A festering wound for the society

Dowry is a festering wound, each person should make efforts to uproot it.

Shaykh Ul Jamia Mufti Khaleel Ahmed said in his presidential address that sin and immorality are common nowadays. People say that Dowry (jahez), divorce, Khula i.e. annulment of marriage are bad but nobody avoids them in practical life. Along with collective efforts, every person should stand against it and only then can a pure society can be created. Hadhrat said that the root cause for all sin is that we are far from our religion of Islam. In the past, though people did not have such knowledge, but even then incidents like those which are common nowadays did not take place. In the present times, along with abundance of knowledge, sin is also common. The basic reason for this is lack of enthusiasm to follow the commandments of Islam. Our society is moving towards such decay today that the incidents which we hear make our hair stand on its end. Women are being tortured and oppressed. People become ready for divorce and annulment for small and trivial things.

Maulana Dr. Shaykh Ahmed Mohiuddin, Founder Darul Uloom An Nomaniya said that it is necessary to save the society from the effects of demanding. Demand of dowry by the groom/groom’s relatives is not correct. Dowry includes things which are necessary for both the groom and the bride. It is the responsibility of the groom to provide what is necessary. It is in no way correct to demand the same from the bride. This is an Unislamic custom. The demand of dowry has become a festering wound for the whole society. The whole society is being destroyed because of this. As a result of this, a large number of girls remain unmarried and the immorality is spreading in the society. The society needs to be saved from this. In the Arab countries, so much is being demanded from the men that a large number of young men and women remain unmarried, and immorality is increasing. Islam has commanded us to avoid extremes and take the middle path (of moderation). The groom is ordered to pay a reasonable alimony and avoid demanding dowry and asking for dowry is simply not allowed.

Mufti Syed Ziauddin Naqshbandi Qadri Founder/Director Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center said that Islam is a complete religion. Apart from Iman and beliefs, it has given timeless principles to make the family and personal life a happy and satisfied. The basic relationship on which the family stands is the relationship between the husband and the wife i.e. the relationship of marriage. The purer the relationship of the husband and wife, the purer the society will become. Allah SWT has declared the husband and wife to be each others’ garments. Garments are the beauty and adornment of the body and hide the flaws/defects of the body and save the body from the effects of winter and the heat of the summer. In the same way, the relationship between the husband and wife is an adornment, protection and a covering for each other. The garment sees the defects of the body but does not express it before others. In the same way, the husband and wife should hide each other’s faults and defects. Marriage is a long lasting relationship. Islam does not like ending it. Instead it teaches us to live with love, affection and patience. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Marry! Do not divorce and among the Halal things, the most offensive to Allah SWT is divorce. Because of this the ‘Arsh of Allah SWT trembles and Iblis becomes happy. The household was the responsibility of Syeda Fatima (May Allah be well pleased with her) and taking care of the needs of the family was the responsibility of Hadhrat Ali (May Allah be well pleased with him). Like men, the women also have rights. It is necessary that each of them behave in the best possible way. They should fear Allah SWT and should try their best to maintain this relationship of marriage. If there is some misunderstanding between the couple, then the Shariah has given us guidelines that first, the wife should be advised, then they should be separated from the beds (i.e. to avoid sexual intercourse with them) and they can be beaten lightly. If matters become normal, then do not commit any excess against them. If even after following these guidelines, the conditions are the same, then arbitrators should be appointed from both sides and if they decide to set things right, then Allah SWT will join them. If the intention (niyyah) is pure then there is no reason why things cannot be set right. If in spite of the best efforts of both sides and there is a danger that they cannot live together and that if they live together, they will not be able to fulfill each other’s rights, then there is a possibility of divorce or annulment of marriage. In a period of purity (i.e. between 2 menses) in which the couple has not had sex, only 1 divorce should be pronounced. If the situation improves, then there is a chance of “ruju” (i.e. revoking of divorce) within the “iddat” waiting period. Even if the Iddat ends, then there is a chance of remarriage. Hadhrat Mufti Sahab said that the way to spread the message of Islam, these kind of conferences and seminars are being organized, in the same way, it is necessary to spread the message of Islam through the Internet. For the fulfillment of this purpose, 1 year ago a bilingual website www.ziaislamic.com (in both Urdu and English) was started under the aegis of Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center. Within a short space of 1 year, this website has crossed all milestones. As per the current records, daily 10,000 people visit this site. This site has Urdu and English articles, Darse Hadith and Darse Quran in both languages and many speeches. The most special feature is Online Fatwa service through which you can ask questions from anywhere in the world, in the language of your choice and get the answers.

Maulana Hassan Farooqui, Nigraan, Sunni Dawate Islami said that demanding “jode ki raqm” is not permissible (jayiz) in any way. Even beggars and poor people who have 1 meal left are not allowed to beg. We have fixed and imposed this Unislamic custom on ourselves. It is necessary to clean the “Nikah” of all such customs and make it as simple as possible. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) has ordered us to make marriage so easy (simple) that adultery becomes difficult. Today we need to act upon the Sunnah instead of following some other methods. The person who upholds a Sunnah, when it is being wiped out will be granted the reward of a 100 martyrs.

The session started with the Qiraat of Hafidh Syed Bahauddin Zubair Naqshbandi and ended with the Dua of Hadhrat Shaykh Ul Jamia. After the lectures, Salaat Ul Isha was offered.

In this session, especially Maulana Auliya Hussaini Qadri, Murtaza Pasha, Nabeera Shaykh Ul Islam was also present. MLAs Ahmed Pasha Qadri, and Ahmed Balala were also present. Maulana Anwaar Ahmed Sahab and many other ‘Ulama, representatives from the print and electronic media and other professionals and intellectuals were also present. A large number of women also attended this lecture.