Disrespect of parents leads to ruination

 

Disrespect of parents leads to ruination

 

Weekly lecture of Mufti Syed Ziauddin Naqshbandi

 

The very presence of parents is a great bounty for the children.  The pleasure and approval of Allah Most High lies in the pleasure of approval of one’s parents and the displeasure of Allah Most High lies in their displeasure.

 

The Holy Quran and Hadith greatly emphasize kind treatment of parents and strictly warn against disobeying them.  Allah Most High says in the Holy Quran:

 

And your Lord has commanded you not to worship anyone other than Allah, and treat parents with benevolence. If either or both of them attain old age in your presence, then do not say even ‘Ugh!’ to them, nor reproach them. And always speak to both of them submissively, observing polite manners.  Surah Isra (17:23)

 

These are the words of Mufti Syed Ziauddin Naqshbandi, Professor, Islamic Law, Jamia Nizamia, Founder-Director, Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center, in the weekly lecture conducted under the aegis of AHIRC in Masjid Abul Hasanaat.

 

The revered Mufti said that the importance of obeying parents can be understood with the fact that Allah Most High orders it immediately after His worship and obedience.  When Allah orders us to be grateful to Him in Surah Luqman, He also orders us to be grateful to our parents:

 

And We emphatically enjoined upon man (to do good) to his parents—whose mother bore him (in her reproductive system) in pain after pain, and whose weaning also takes two years (and commanded him:) ‘Give thanks to Me and to your parents. (You) shall return to Me alone.’  Surah Luqman (31:14)

 

The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) has clearly expressed the high status of parents in His words.  He has given glad tidings of bounties and the pleasure of Allah Most High to those who value and obey them.  There is a Hadith in Shu’abul Imaan of Imam Baihaqui:

 

Translation: The person who starts his (or her) day with obedience to his parents for the sake of Allah, for such a person 2 gateways of paradise are opened and if only one of the parents is alive, then only one gateway of paradise is opened.  For the person who ends his (or her) day in disobedience of Allah with regard to rights of parents, 2 doors to hell are opened for that person and if only one parents is alive, one door to hell is opened.

 

The revered Mufti said that even if the parents commit some excess against the children, Islam still orders that the children should exercise patience and shouldn’t indulge in any vengeful activity.  He quoted from Jame’ Tirmidhi that the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, when speaking about the tribulations of the Ummah:  A man will obey his wife and disobey his mother.  A man will keep his friends close and will distance his own father from himself.

 

The revered Mufti said that one of the reasons for the ruination of the new generation is disobedience of parents and disrespecting them.  Many skilled people are wandering searching for proper livelihood in spite of being highly educated.  They are not able to get rid of their difficulties in spite of many efforts.  A reason behind this is ignoring the rights of parents and treating them with disrespect.  They should serve their parents and gain their blessings, as the blessings of parents have great effect.  There are many young people who are so busy in their own life that they don’t find the time to look after their parents although the parents desperately need them.  Such people should give prime importance to their parents.  By virtue of obeying and serving their parents, Allah Most High will increase their knowledge and sustenance.

 

If parents are old, then double care should be taken of them.  In the era of Hadhrat ‘Umar Farooq (May Allah be well pleased with him), a mother asked her son for something.  The son resolved to give it to her, but changed his mind when his wife taunted him.  The mother went back crying.  Then that person went on a journey for trade.  He earned a lot of profit.  While returning, dacoits took away everything that he had and cut off his hand.  He came to his mother crying and said:  If I had spent my money on you, then my wealth would not have been looted.  If I had given you money with my hand, my hand would not have been cut.  When the mother saw the agony of the son, she prayed and Allah Most High accepted her prayer and cured her son.

 

After the lecture, there was a session of Dhikr and Sulook and the whole session ended with Dua of the revered Mufti.  Maulana Hafidh Syed Bahauddin Zubair led the proceedings.