Respect and obedience of parents - In light of the Holy Quran and Hadith

Rights of parents after they have passed away

If the parents are alive, then treating them kindly means that they should be obeyed and served.  If any one (or both) pass away, then treating them kindly means to supplicate for their forgiveness and that their outstanding debts should be paid and their relatives should be treated kindly and reward of good deeds should be gifted to them.  There is a Hadith in Sunan Abu Dawood:

Translation: It is narrated on the authority of Hadhrat Abu Usaid Malik bin Rab’eea Sa’adi (May Allah be well pleased with him), he says:  When we were present with the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) that a person from Banu Salama came and said:  O Prophet of Allah (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)!  Is there any form of kind treatment for parents after they have passed away?  The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:  Kind treatment of parents after they have passed away is to offer their Salaat Ul Janaazah, to pray for their forgiveness, to fulfill their promises and to maintain relations with their relatives with whom relations are maintained only because of this and to respect their friends.  (Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith No. 5144)

   The parents have many rights on children.  Briefly 4 rights while they are alive and 4 rights after they have died have been described. 

May Allah Most High guide us to fulfill the rights of our parents and to respect and obey them as they ought to be respected and obeyed.

Aameen Bi Jaahil Sayyidil Mursaleen

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